You are the only one...
You've probably had someone tell you those very words, or ones very much like them. They are some of the most damaging words that can be said to anyone. While they seem innocent enough on the surface, their implication is far from gentle. Let me explain by way of some examples.
You are the only one deeply in debt. You are the only one who hasn't got a job, or alternatively a good job. You are the only one not making any money or becoming successful. You are the only one who ever had that problem. You are the only one who never succeeded. You are the only one who never does anything right. You are the only one...on and and on. As you can see, the variations to the theme are endless. They are also illogical and entirely untrue.
If you were the only one in deeply in debt, there would be no need for a debt collection industry. If you were the only person without a job, then there would be no need for organizations as widely different as employment agencies and unemployment insurnace. There wouldn't even be words to describe the condition. If you were the only one not making any money, there would be no such words as poverty, homelessness, or social inequality. You get my drift.
You are the only one is simply untrue and hurful to the person on the receiving end. The goal of the speaker might be to help, or perhaps even to hurt, but in the end the result is the same. The listener feels inferior, inadequate, and alone. Instead of a boost to the confidence, the chair is pulled out from beneath them.
It need not be that way. You are not the only one, and you are definitely not alone. As bloggers, we understand that other people share common problems, roadblocks, and sometimes need a helping hand too. Occasionally, we can even offer assistance to others ourselves. As a matter of fact, helping others to succeed was and remains my business blog's most important goal.
Bloggers can support one another and remove that sense of aloneness and isolation in several ways. Perhaps a group of bloggers could meet via instant messenger, chat room, or conference call on a regular basis to discuss common difficulties. Learning from others and sharing experiences can serve to stimulate new and fresh ideas, as well as help to overcome that sense of being entirely on your own. Knowing how other people solved their problems can go far in easing your own challenges and difficulties.
Blogger sharing can go far beyond business meetings to discuss personal issues as well. The number of topics for the blogger support group are literally endless. They are bounded only by the needs and experience of the group members. Everyone learns from everyone else's knowledge and experiences. Every day, bloggers share valuable insights with the world. They also share information, ideas, and support privately through e-mails, telephone calls, and instant messaging.
Don't listen to anyone who tells you that you are the only one who has a vaguely described problem. Instead, remind them that you are part of a strong group of independent like minded individuals, who help one another succeed in business, and in life. You are far from being alone and the only one.
Helping others assists you in achieving your goals too.
Bloggers helping bloggers is the the best path to shared success in any aspect of life.
Join with others today. You are most definitely not alone.
And you are not the only one.
